One guy said that I will lift a bull and everyone started laughing at him. After few days, a cow delivered a calf and he started lifting that calf daily. Day by day the calf was becoming heavier and day by day his muscle strength also was growing. When the calf became bull, he lifted it one day. The thing which seemed to be impossible because our mind is unable to percept, became possible. If a human being can lift a bull, it can do many more things which we haven’t thought about up till now. However, for that we have to believe in ourselves. Indian history is full of such stories, where one person believed in his/her strength and was able to do which seems to be impossible by a human being. However, when we look at those stories, we think that they were born different. We are not from that lot. Whether it’s Mahatma Gandhi or Queen Laxmibai or Vivekanand. My mother always tells me that we are born in a restricted culture and we are supposed to follow same culture and values. You cannot rewrite anything new. Whatever is written in books for us we have to follow. So the big reason was what is written in books. I went and checked her reference books and I realised there is nothing as such written. In fact all the books or holy scriptures guide us to the path of love and oneness. No book says you are to divide human beings on the name of culture. Rest of the things are our interpretation and that is why everyone is trying to impose more and more restrictions. And to next generation we pass a message that we are supposed to follow whatever has been told. Well if that is true then there would not have been any BR Ambedkar because he was born too inside the boundaries and he broke them and wrote Indian constitution. He was born in that time called as untouchables. However, he stood up against untouchability and rose to that level. If we look at the things 50 years back, we were fighting with so many evils in the society like Sati Pratha, Child marriages, mistreatment of widows etc. If we would have kept believing in same that whatever was told to us was right, we still would have been reeling under same. Same way whatever restrictions are imposed on us would not be there after 50 years. These boundaries also would dissolve. However, for that we have to stand up for whatever we believe in instead of looking for everyone’s approval.

The truth is our mind cannot comprehend everything. We do not understand everything still we believe in lots of things. This is also true that we are much more powerful than we would ever know. However, since the time we are born we have been looking at ourselves from others perspective. We are taught who we are instead of being taught how to know ourselves. No one know how much powerful he/she is. We know about us only to the extent what others have told us and that is why for everything we would like to depend on others approval. We are not taught to believe in self and then do things. We would like others to stand by us or else we feel what if tomorrow it turns out wrong and then I would be standing alone. We are unable to accept own responsibility. However, if you believe in yourself, you would never need anyone else’s approval too. You need others approval for the things you want to do, because you don’t believe in yourself enough. We are taught to do things from others perspective.

If you want to step out of this quicksand, you need to believe in one thing that you can be whatever you decide to be and that can happen only when you expect only from yourself. If you expect from others even their approval, you would never be able to know what actually you are capable of. You are as infinite as this Universe because you are the Universe yourself. When you have God inside you, you cannot be short of any power. If they were born different, you are born different too. Just believe in yourself and believe in the God inside you and get going. No one would be able to stop you. Few days back, there was a news that a mother lifted a SUV because her baby was buried under that during an accident. The situation and her love for the child gave her power to lift that SUV vehicle. However, if the situation would not have arisen she would not have lifted. Now the main point is, she still had that power. It was upto her, whether she wanted to use that power or not. When she needed, she could pull that power. Same way we all are connected to the infinite source of power and whenever we want or intend to or we realize, we would be able to bring that power into use. No one is born different and yes everyone is different but equal for the creator and everyone is connected equally with the creator. Whenever we desire we can re-establish the connection which we have lost. Moment we are able to do that, we would realize that we have always been more powerful than we could imagine.

Few days back I had gone for a morning walk. I saw a small old tiny rag picker lady inside the park gate. She asked me to get aside so that she could carry her huge bag on her head and go out. The size of the bag appeared much bigger than the short, slim old lady. I was wondering how she would pick it up. I started helping her in picking her bag on her head and she said, please don’t touch it, it would spoil your hands. I said, don’t worry about this because I can wash my hands. I anyway proceeded with the thing and helped her in keeping that bag on her head. She got tears in her eyes and she left leaving lots of blessings. I always remember her tears filled eyes and smile. I did not give her anything, I did not do anything for her. Actually if I look at it, I did nothing for her and she gave me so many blessings. I received much more than what I could ask for. Without doing anything or giving anything I got so much.

Most of the times we wait for the times where we can do very big things. However, those big things can only come after the small steps. Every small drop of ocean together makes an ocean. If you want an ocean, you need to understand that it is made up of those tiny drops only. Big things don’t happen without small things. We are taught to give money or things but the truth is we can give much more than we can imagine. Because we have received so much more. However, we don’t realize how much we have received and that is why we are unable to give also. Few days back I went to a school. I saw a special tree there. What made that tree so special was the love of a 3 years old girl. The tree got infected and the horticulturist gave some medicine for the tree to apply. He said that it would get healed in 3 weeks minimum. One small girl went to the market with her mother and bought a white bandage. When she thought that no one was watching she wrapped it on tree. Miraculously tree got healed in 1 week and love of that little girl had made that tree so special in the school.

All the time we keep looking at what we do not have and we keep complaining. We forget to look at what we have already received and that is why we are unable to look at others who might need little from us. We are unable to look at daily struggle everyone is going through because we are so focused on ourselves. We are unable to see what someone might need or is going through. Our ego always wants to point out mistake in others because it wants to feel better than others. Even if we realize our own mistake, or somewhere we realize we should have acted more kindly we try to blame it on someone else. But believe we need to be kind and caring not because the other person is a good person but because we are nice human beings and we believe in love. Ego does not believe in love, it always wants to separate people because without that how would it feel that it is better than others. Love beings people closer and helps us in realizing that we are humans. Without the emotion of love, what is the difference between a human and a rock? We are different than rocks because we have emotions and we can feel for each other. If we would stop feeling for each other, where would be the difference?

Kindness is not about giving money or things. It’s about sharing the love we have inside us with everyone and everything around us. We do not need to give big things we just have to be kind towards people. Everyone is fighting a life battle, everyone is going though one or other pain. We just have to understand we all need love and we all have that love. Love is something which is independent of anything else. It is independent of any form or size or shape. It can bind a human to a human or a tree to a human or an animal to a human. Love has the power to bring everyone and everything together. Love is we all are here for. So what we actually need is already there in abundance with us. So just start sharing and this world would be full of love. After that we would not have to sit back and complain that people are becoming bad and this world is going into a bad direction. We just have to start sharing love.

Few days back I met a gentleman who was very excited about leaving the job. I ask him, if he has found a new better job and he said no! I am not going to do another job. I am excited because I am opening a new office. It was not a usual excitement because whenever someone is opening his own company, he/she has an excitement over his face. However, this gentleman had a different kind of peace on his face which intrigued me. I asked him, what is the reason behind this peace? His answer amazed me. He said that all this while for 15 years I have been working for someone else. I always gave my best and all the jobs have been very rewarding. I grew a lot and learned a lot in every job. (He was one of the few I have met who was not despising his job) I am not changing from job to own office because I had complaints from my job or I was not satisfied with the salaries I drew. I had been a very contented man all this time. I never felt that I was working for someone else because I have always worked for myself only. We all work for ourselves. More he was talking and more I was flowing with surprises from his side. I asked him again, then what is the reason for the shift? And he said it’s these offices work as per someone else’s thought process and every office is the clothing of its owner. Like our soul takes birth and the body we live in is the clothing of our soul, same way the office is the clothing of the employer’s thought process. His soul lives in his office. All this while I had been very happy but I never felt I was wearing my own clothing. I always felt that I was into someone else’s body. Now I am going to get my own body and I would drive my own vehicle. Up till now, I was driving for someone else. I had never heard such a beautiful, passionate, peaceful and spiritual explanation of someone’s passion for work. To the onlookers, it might appear as an action in which one more person was leaving job and setting up his own company but I could feel the love he was creating for his employees and new work. The love which will bring prosperity and happiness in everyone’s life. The work which would bring love in the lives of people who are going to be associated with him.

Most of the people when they are in job refrain from giving 100% in the job thinking it’s not their headache or it’s not their work. They think that they are working for someone else. However, the truth is no one works for someone else, we all work for ownself. We are working because we need to work, we are not working because the employer needed an employee. There are many standing in queue to get the job. However, when we work with such attitude, we are keeping ourselves from the joy and contentment of working. We are never able to connect with the soul of that office. The soul which keeps us alive. In a way, we work without soul and without soul we become like a machine, which is working mechanically. Because we are not attached emotionally. Our emotions defines us and they tell us if we are alive or not. If someone has stopped feeling emotions it means that person has stopped feeling. If we do not feel, then what is the difference between a machine and a human? We are different from machines, because we live with emotions. We do not start living with a robot because robots do not have emotions. So whatever work we are doing, we need be attached emotionally with same and we should feel happy about same instead of feeling like a machine. We all have souls and that soul needs to be connected to the other soul that is the soul of the office. Yes, like that gentleman had mentioned, every office has own soul.

However, many times, employees are unable to connect with the soul of the office because they have not realised the soul of the office. The employer plays a very big role in connecting the soul of his office with the soul of his employees. So many times, they set up an office in a hush to create a place and set up a business. They do not look at the smaller facts of the office that why they want to do this business. How they want their employees to feel in that business office. What are their own values and what are the values they want their employees to follow. What is the purpose they wish to achieve for themselves and what is the purpose employees can fulfil in that office. If their life purpose is not achieved in that office, their soul would never be happy in that office and they will not be able to connect. They can connect only when their soul would know that its purpose would be achieved at that work place. So for an employee’s emotions and soul to connect, you need to realise the soul of your office.

I bought a pair new shoes. It was biting my toes. I thrusted some cotton for few days so that I could wear it. I did not throw the shoe. I cushioned the shoes, so that it could not hurt me. However, I did not put an ego for the shoes that if it’s hurting me why I should wear it. We don’t even throw a shoe when it hurts us but we tend to throw people when we are hurt from them. Someone say’s something and we start feeling bad and we create many stories around it. The stories which are created by ego and involve I, me and mine in them. He said this to me, so it means he does not like me, he does not respect me or he does not love me. If he hasn’t called, why should I call? I am already doing so much for him, why can’t he see what I am doing and so on. Well, I heard these stories from a daughter in law who was not talking to her in laws and husband for almost a month. She had a daughter and she wanted to live for her daughter which is beautiful but just in one month she had decided that she would get separated from her husband as she cannot be with his family.

This is not a very new story but it happens with many. I have seen children not talking to their parents out of ego and we estrange many beautiful relationships when we feel they have been hurting us. When they hurt, we distance ourselves from them. However, that’s not the solution. We need to find a cushion so that we can be with them and after sometime that hurt would be over. Every relationship, even a simple friendship or with parents or the relationship of a couple goes through ups and downs. It would take time to adjust and settle down. When you put few things in a jar, the things take time to settle down with each other. You need to shake them also sometimes to make a space. After sometime, they will adjust with each other and you would have more room.

When we are hurt, one major thing we need to understand is that more than other’s action, we are hurt by the emotions which it has created inside us. So we are hurt because of something which is inside us. For that it would not be fair that we start distancing people from us. We need to take care of that inside us. Something which is inside us does not have a solution outside us. If we try to take that out on people, it would only hurt us further.

Every relationship goes through hell but stronger ones survive. The ones which are based on love only survive. If a father thinks he is fulfilling only responsibility and he does not create love with his child, the relationship would fall when the child grows. I met a 59 years old father who has 4 children. He did not create a loving relationship with his children, in fact he always kept them at a distance. Thought he brought many things for them.  He did not spend time with them, he did not bother about the fact that if they were happy and he always told them what all he has been doing for them, which kept putting lots of pressure on children. The result was after few years, when they were on their own, they did not care what he was going through. He expressed his love the way he knew by buying things and many fathers go through this problem. That is why children are always closer to mothers rather than fathers. They come and share with mothers more than fathers because mothers spend more time with them. We cannot negate the contribution of a father in a child’s life but we need to work upon that relationship so that it can be filled up with love. If two friends do not share love, very soon their ego would come in between and they would stop being friends. Same way between husband and wife too.

Every relationship would hurt at some point, but we need to put a cushion to survive that. The cushion which you need to put into any relationship, so that it can stop hurting you and you would not have to discard it, is love. When you cushion it with love, it would not hurt you. Or let’s say, it will pass the stage when it could hurt you. However, bringing ego in between and distancing the person is no solution. Problems happen, so that we can learn from them, not because they want to hurt us. However, your intention has to be there, that I want to stay in this relationship. Without a small hurt would be good enough to break it.

One man came to me who works in army and stays out of home for months. He is suspecting his wife of having an affair because she has started dressing up differently. When I spoke to his wife, she said she loves her husband but she is not happy with him because for everything he blames her, whenever she says something about their relationship, he replies back that he has not changed and she only has changed. He is never open to any discussions. So she has made new friends and she is having some girls’ night out with them. She actually did not have any affair but she wanted something new for herself. Her husband had to understand the point that they needed to revive their relationship. Instead of just getting insecure about the same, he needed a heart full discussion with his wife and he also had to work upon few facts that together they had to decide how they want their relationship to be. They were able to work it out after they both understood the mistake they were making and how it was affecting their relationship. Their problem is not different from many of the couples who go through taken for granted, boredom and frustration after sometime of marriage. For some it comes after 10 years and for some it may come after 5 years. After that the thrill and fun of adventure starts attracting us. Many fall into extra marital affairs because of the thrill and adventure of a new relationship. Every new relationship comes with a newness in life and we find it refreshing. However, after sometime, that relationship also becomes monotonous and the person gets bored. But this time, instead of finding it fun, it becomes a complicated situation. Now the person wants to walk out because it’s an extra marital and he/she wants it to be over without disturbing the marriage. So we need to work upon the thrill of adventure of the new one and boredom of the existing one. We need to revive the relationship from time to time and bring newness to us. We need to maintain the romance in same. If in a new relationship, we like to go on dating, we need to resume that in the existing one. If we are more focussed in the new relationship, we need to maintain the focus in the existing one, instead of taking it for granted.

Falling in love is not a challenge but staying in love requires a lots of commitment. Every relationship is like a plant which needs to be nurtured daily. If you do not water your plant one day, next day it would start withering. Same way, if you do not nurture your relationship one day, it would start withering. Oftentimes we keep asking for more and more but we forget what we have to give in a relationship. It needs constant love and care and is based on the roots of love trust and respect. If one thing goes missing, it takes away other two as well. If you do not trust your partner, you will never be able to love and respect. If you do not love, eventually you would lose respect and you would stop relying and then goes the trust. So we need to main all three.

So first of all we need to sit and think how we want our relationship to be. Yes, you need to prepare a blue print of the relationship to be together with your partner. This will also include some expectations from each other. We assume many things and they kill us. You need to prepare a blue print, without that, your relationship would have similar structure like a building is constructed without referring to a blue print. It would be unplanned and ugly to look at and that’s why most of the relationships have unplanned shape. Husband does not know what he should give and what wife expects from him and same way, wife assumes her role, but does not know what her husband wants from her. I met a girl recently, where she was playing all the roles perfectly but her husband did not want a traditional wife. He wanted a wife who has life of her own and who is not stuck with her kitchen or kids. He said that I can manage if my wife orders food from outside every day but I would be happy if she comes and sits with me daily when I am back home. So she assumed that playing a traditional wife would keep her husband with her but he wanted a lady with a mind of her own and life of her own. When they realized this gap, they could work upon their differences. So do make a map of how you want things to be.
Every plant needs tender love and care and every relationship too. If you leave it unattended, it would be surrounded with weeds and few may be poisonous too. It’s your decision, it depends on you how beautiful you can make it. It needs your commitment and dedication.

Few days back I went to a school. I had to give a small speech to teachers and parents on how to handle children and why values are important. People were quite receptive and happy with what I had to speak. After the talk was over, one gentleman approached me and said that he is running a NGO for poor children and he would like to invite me to speak for them. I said I would be more than glad if I could do something. Then came a hitch. He said I want you to speak one thing and you can pass on same message in your speeches, I was looking at him with wide eyes and wondering what is the message God sending me today. He said that please tell parents to stay away from mobiles and TVs. I said sir, I am using a mobile myself so how can I ask someone else to stay away from mobiles and TVs. He was insistent and then I told him, first thing, I speak what my heart says and second thing, this is how we are evolving. We have to learn to accept change. We cannot go back in times and say that we want to live in this time only. Today’s generation is technology generation and we cannot stop evolution. If you want them to accept you, you need to accept the changes which they have brought. If we would not let change happen, we still would have been living in Stone Age in caves. Every generation is more evolved than the previous generation and that is how we have come so far. We have aeroplanes, cars, computers, mobiles and now tablets. Why do we want that world should live in same old time? I understand we miss our old times because we have beautiful memories attached with those times but that does not mean that we stop evolving. Even I love the times of my childhood spent with my family, school friends, some pranks, some games and everything was very beautiful. However, even this is very beautiful. Technology has made our lives so convenient.
Furthermore, if you want to retain old values then teach them along with changing values. We need to be wide open to the new system also or else why would they listen to us and that is why we have generation gap because we are unable to accept the evolution. We are unable to grow. Our children grow up but we do not grow. WE still live in same age with same mind set. I believe that Spiritual Education is must in schools and then I realised that many have seen this dream. However, I am not against modern education because this is what is helping people to acquire skills for their lives. So I want to combine Spiritual education into modern education so that, our today’s generation can learn both the things and become a better individual. New generation is not bad, I would request all the parents and grandparents to open your eyes to the new generation and try to see their point of view. What you know is also right but does not mean that their perspective is wrong. Learn to accept them and they will accept you.

We all are trained to think negative since the time we are born. I was driving and my aunt was sitting next to me. One crane was crossing the road, so I had to stop my car for few seconds because of the size of the crane. Immediately she started speaking, why this crane had to come now only. We were in no hurry and we had ample time, we had to go only nearby. Now if I look at it from the driver’s perspective who was driving the crane, how troublesome it must be for him to drive such a giant vehicle, to take turns etc. And how many people must be cursing him. What is his option, he anyway has to do his job. There are no separate lanes for him. But God belongs to everyone. He cannot make poor driver pay for the negativity which is inside someone else. So where does it go, whatever we are creating stays with us. It comes back to us. It sounds scary now. However, there is a good news, our mind can think only one thing at a time, we keep asking for more and more and we feel negative when we feel what we have asked for is not with us. Now instead of thinking negative all the time, can we start thinking about how we can give more love to people? How we can create more love. Believe me, you would always sit with a smile, you would have people coming and giving you more love, it would appear like sun is shining more for you, and people are giving you more smiles, the smiles which would stay in your heart and penetrate your soul. All you have to do is just give as much as love you can. I get surprised, it seems like everyone wants to give me gifts since the time magic has love entered in my life. The Photostat guy gave me a candy and said you must eat this. The people on road comes and smile, everyone keeps bringing happy news, it’s like everyone is giving me so much love. I don’t even have to ask for anything, everything just happens. Love is so magical but you need to fill up everything with love.

It’s not only about things happening around, love heals everything and every wound. Why a child gets healed in his mother’s lap, because he is receiving that love. You hug someone with love and all his you will have a capacity to heal all his emotions. You fill up your life with love and your life would be healed. The problems happen because we are away from love. Absence of love only creates all the problems in our lives. Like you want love, everyone and everything wants to be loved. So more love you would have and more the things would start flowing into your life because they also need the love you have.

When we think of negative, Universe blocks our channels of energy because Universe knows that collectively this negative energy can harm this beautiful creation or would vanquish the entire planet. There is so much negativity of greed, jealousy, hatred which is produced all the time. We see a beautiful car we feel jealous, we see a beautiful house instead of blessing the people inside it we feel greedy. We see a couple in love, instead of blessing their love we curse them saying that today’s generation does not understand love. We create so much negativity inside us all day. To save that from spreading, Universe blocks our channels. However, if you want to open your channels and spread what you really feel then it has to be only love because that is what is required. Love is the only thing which can spread in every direction. So create as much as love you can

Be love and give love. You are eternally loved. Your true nature is love. All you need is love. All you need to give is love.